Okay, may be it is not practically possible to be in your happiness zone always, but why not give it a try.
There is one thing that can take you away from happiness zone faster than you blink.
Expectations.
Because when expectations are not fulfilled, it leads to frustration and disappointment, which prevents you from being happy.
But there are a few things you can do to NOT go down that path.
First is to set the expectations low.
Next, talk to the other person if they are okay with the expectations you have set. Because if your expectations are beyond the other person’s capabilities or willingness to do, you are setting yourself up for sure-shot frustration. Nip it in the bud.
And finally, when your expectations are not met, try to analyse what went wrong. When you see the reason behind why your well-laid plans failed, you will feel less disappointed.
But wait, what about self-expectations? Should that be low too?
Well, that’s a tricky question.
If your expectation bar is too low, you are not playing to your strengths fully and hence not reaching your growth potential.
If you set too high expectations, that is bound to break your heart when you fail, and probably your spirits too for some time.
It’s best to stick somewhere in between. Where you stretch your strengths but not overkill. And that comes with practice and experience.
Just remember, nothing is to be gained out of being hard on yourself or others when expectations are not met.
Be kind. To whoever is at the receiving end of your expectations.
QUESTION TIME
What is your framework for setting expectations? Do you even have one?
That’s all for today.
Adios and Happy Monday!!
